‘I Send Letters After Relationships End, But No One Writes Me Back’
You’re throwing down brutal truths at the exact moment they’re no longer relevant.
Heather Havrilesky
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‘Time Moves Too Quickly!’
Your thoughts are forming tight fences around your feelings.
‘I’m a Pathetic Loser Who Can’t Stop Procrastinating!’
You’re not what you think you are.
‘Is My Absence From Social Media a Red Flag?’
I think you’re ahead of the curve.
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‘Nobody Shows.’
Sometimes I think no one has it worse than the one who never gets angry.
‘No One Understands Me!’
You’re trying to stay superior, to keep yourself safe.
‘My Family Isn’t Speaking to Me and I’m Miserable Over It!’
You know in your heart they’re being unfair, but that doesn’t mean you don’t miss them.
‘Am I Too Weird and Contradictory to Find Love?’
You, my friend, are not right with yourself.
‘Every Man I Date Finds the Love of His Life Right After We Break Up!’
Ask yourself why you’re so into these narratives about how you lose and lose and lose.
‘How Do I Decide What to Do With My Life?’
I think that the answer, for you, begins with your shame.
‘I’m Depressed and I Want to Leave My Perfectly Good Husband’
You don’t want to talk about difficult things, like the fact that you’re falling apart.
‘My Ex-Boyfriend Hates Me and It’s Messing Up My New Life!’
You’re living inside his twisted perception of you.
‘I’m Scared of Failure’
You’re hidden, which doesn’t help.
‘I Will Never Be Who I Want to Be’
You’re playing a role that doesn’t suit you anymore.
‘I Can’t Stop Comparing Myself to More Successful Writers!’
You need to stop seeing the world through the lens of your fears.
‘I Always Steal My Friends’ Boyfriends, and I Can’t Stop!’
You’re telling an inaccurate story about how you keep falling into emotional quicksand.
‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’
When you live inside of your shame, everything you see is inadequate and embarrassing.
‘How Do I Survive Staying With My Judgmental Family?’
Give them your poker face and don’t say a word.
‘He’s “Confused.” Should I Wait for Him?’
Confused is a placeholder that could keep you in a state of limbo indefinitely.
‘I’m Lazy, Reckless, and Addicted to Social Media. Help!’
The way you’re processing the world is broken. If you don’t fix it, you’ll just keep creating new problems.