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Alexa Tsoulis-Reay

  1. marriage: an investigation
    When Paying for Sex and Using Cocaine Don’t Tear Your Marriage Apart“If we can get through this, then I’m pretty sure we’re solid for the rest of our lives.”
  2. marriage: an investigation
    How a Marriage Survives the Death of a Child“If you were to ask me why this destroys some marriages, I would probably say that some marriages are ripe for being destroyed.”
  3. marriage: an investigation
    It Was Either Her or His Family. He Chose Her.“I think there’s a certain turning point in a marriage where you become a team.”
  4. marriage: an investigation
    What It’s Like to Finally Find the One, the Third Time Around“I don’t buy that argument that you have to work on yourself and be in this great place and you will attract the right person.”
  5. marriage: an investigation
    When You Realize You’ll Never Love Him as Much As He Loves You“I only want good things for him — he’s a good human being — and that includes the relationship he wants. I just don’t know how to give it to him.”
  6. marriage: an investigation
    When You Can’t Yell at Your Wife Because She Won’t Hear You“You can say a lot less shitty things when you’re really thinking about what you’re going to say.”
  7. secret side hustles
    ‘It’s Like I’m a Naked Shrink’What it’s like to have a side gig as a tantric masseuse.
  8. secret side hustles
    The Nurse Who Sells Her Own Breast Milk Online“Mothers who have an organic or vegan diet will charge up to $3 per ounce, but I’m just not that sort of woman.”
  9. secret side hustles
    The Publicist Who Dreads Getting Caught for Her Illegal Airbnb“I see this money as part of my income, and I depend on it. If we got found out, I’d have trouble paying my bills.”
  10. secret side hustles
    The Health Writer Who Moonlights As a Dominatrix“There are some dominatrixes who make bank, but I’m on the lazier side: $300 is pretty standard for an hour, and there’s no overhead.”
  11. secret side hustles
    The Music Teacher Who Travels the World As a Mystery Shopper“My boss doesn’t know I do this, and I’ve had a couple of close calls.”
  12. talking to
    Inside the Mind of a PlagiaristAfter recent scandals in the poetry world, the Cut spoke to three women with a history of plagiarism.
  13. my favorite places
    74 of Our Favorite New Yorkers on Their Favorite Places in New YorkFrom a 24-hour Ukrainian restaurant to biking in the Rockaways.
  14. interviews
    A New York Politician Wants to Make Cash-Free Cafés Illegal“Even if a policy seems neutral in theory, it can be racially exclusionary in practice.”
  15. 50th anniversary
    My New York: A Daisy Chain of ConnectionsThe final chapter of our 50th anniversary issue, devoted to what might make other people in other places go crazy but here we call connection.
  16. debit or credit
    More Restaurants and Cafés Refuse to Accept Cash — That’s Not a Good Thing“Just because you don’t have a piece of plastic, you can’t get a sandwich?”
  17. 2008
    What a Foreclosure-Boat-Tour Operator Saw During the Great Recession“It breaks my heart to see what I had to do to a guy who had nowhere to go.”
  18. really ridiculously good looking
    What It’s Like to Be Married to a Very Attractive Man“He’ll take a bite out of a cookie and throw it away because he can’t possibly eat the whole thing. I just think, ‘bite me.’”
  19. dating
    5 People on Coming Out As Poly to Their Families“My grandmother said ‘Well, that doesn’t sound too bad, I wouldn’t mind your grandfather having someone else to drag up to the cabin on the weekend!’”
  20. new mom
    I Was Convinced I Might Kill My ChildWhat it’s like to have postpartum psychosis.
  21. wedding season
    3 Married Men Talk About Taking Their Wife’s Last NameWhen it just makes more sense.
  22. sex
    Here’s How BDSM and Role Play Actually WorkEverything must be consensual.
  23. equal pay day
    6 HR Execs on How Equal Pay Really WorksA few tips about salaries and pay gaps.
  24. self reflection
    What It’s Like to Go Through Life As a Really Beautiful Woman“I look back over my life and think, What did my looks do for me?”
  25. sex
    What It’s Like to Visit ‘Dr. M,’ New York’s Erotic Masseur for Women“It’s so vanilla, and yet so kinky.”
  26. atypical
    What It’s Like to Reconstruct Your Own Foreskin“I will never grow back all the nerve endings lost during circumcision, but I did get back some sensitivity.”
  27. women of the world
    What It’s Like to Be a Legal Sex Worker in New Zealand“Because my work is legal, if anything goes wrong, the police have to help.”
  28. women of the world
    What It’s Like to Be a Woman Living in a War Zone“Everyone is suffering terribly from the war, and Yemeni women are suffering mentally, physically, and emotionally.”
  29. how to raise a boy
    How I Raised 5 Sons To Respect WomenThere’s a testosterone overload in my house.
  30. stoneman shooting
    What It’s Like Being a Teacher During a School ShootingTwo Sandy Hook teachers look back on how they survived, and what came after.
  31. spring fashion 2018
    Can Fashion Ever Be an Ethical Business?A notorious industry gets its #MeToo moment. Sort of.
  32. evangelicalism
    What It’s Like To Experience Gay Conversion Therapy“The pastor was inches away from my face, screaming for the demon to get out.”
  33. politics
    4 Women on How They Changed Their Lives After Trump“We joked about leaving. But I didn’t really think we’d do it.”
  34. explanations
    5 Men on Why They Didn’t Stop Sexual Harassment at Work“Who am I to decide how this should be handled?”
  35. coping diaries
    The Freelance Writer Using LSD for Depression“Three days a week, I take 4.5 micrograms before breakfast.”
  36. 7 Months Pregnant and Trapped in a Hurricane“I thought: My baby and I are going to drown.”
  37. coping diaries
    Coping Diaries: The Mom Who Ditched Benzos for Her BongThe first installment of our new series.
  38. charlottesville
    I Lost My Son to the Alt-Right MovementA mother reflects on her son’s descent into hate.
  39. i don't
    7 Stories of Total Wedding DisastersTrue tales of worst-case scenarios, from natural disasters to infidelity to permanent brain damage.
  40. What It’s Really Like to Be a Phone-Sex OperatorThe lead plaintiff in a class-action lawsuit against a national phone-sex provider takes us through a day in her life.
  41. amateur hour
    7 Pioneers of Amateur Web Porn Look BackDIY porn stars and successful Pornhub personalities explain how they got into the business in the first place.
  42. plumbing
    The Master Plumber Who Thinks More Women Should Learn a Trade“In those stupid career fairs nobody ever suggested to the little girls, ‘Get into a trade, you’ll make a ton of money and have a lifelong career.’”
  43. popular
    I Was the Queen Bee: 3 High School Bullies on Their Reigns of Terror“You feel invincible when you know you’re popular.”
  44. security
    The Campus Security Director Who Fears a Mass Shooting“That is the kind of disaster that keeps us up at night. We have an open campus. There’s no fencing because it’s a welcoming environment.”
  45. health care
    The Doctor Who Wants to Change How You Think About Dying“What frustrates me is, as providers, we’ve lost our humanness and we cease to live when we forget about the human.”
  46. reproductive rights
    The Sisters Working at a Women’s Clinic Who Have to Keep Their Jobs a SecretThe siblings are employed at a provider in one of the country’s most restrictive states for abortion access.
  47. The Animal Surgeon Who Tries to Keep Dogs Out of WheelchairsI often think: “I wish I could cut to the chase and talk to the dogs,” it would make my life easier.
  48. hotels
    The Furniture Installer Who Sees How Gross You Are in Hotel Rooms“Americans break everything and they use everything as a crutch.”
  49. sales
    The Lawn-Care Salesman Who Runs From Door to Door“Recently, I decided to use a ‘police-style’ door knock on the door and that tends to work.”
  50. media
    The Trend Forecaster Who Creates Your Sense of ‘Normal’“So many social problems are caused by fear of the unknown. The quickest way to normalize an experience is to show it to people …”
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