Earlier today we posted a letter from a reader who claimed that a bartender at PDT banished her to Crif Dogs when she and her date dared to order non-alcoholic drinks with their dinner. But put down those “We’re Here, We’re Sober, Get Used To It” protest posters — a bar manager at PDT wants to clarify their policy on the matter.

A formerly hard-partying friend of Grub Street tells us that her new state of sobriety wasn’t exactly greeted with Christian compassion at PDT. When we called the cocktail lounge as civilians to find out whether we’d have problems drinking Cokes there, the hostess hesitantly told us “I don’t think so,” but our bone-dry friend has a different tale to tell:

Jason Kosmas, the suave, mustached bartender and part owner of Employees Only, just published, with Dushan Zaric, You Didn't Hear It From Us, a woman's guide to meeting men in bars. Think of it as a companion to Dave Zinczenko's Men, Love and Sex: The Complete User Guide For Women. Curious about the phenomenon of dudes counseling ladies in matters of romance, we challenged Kosmas to find ways for women to link up with guys in restaurants. Here, in his own words, is what he came up with. (The opinions expressed belong solely to Mr. Kosmas. Grub Street cannot guarantee that you will meet a man or men in a restaurant after reading this advice.)

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It's always a happy moment: You've been chatting at the bar, guzzling it up, when the host shimmers into place to tell you that your table is ready. So smooth is the transition that you don't even have to pay! Your tab is added to your dinner bill, and some soigné functionary puts the drinks on a tray and whisks them to your table.

Does this mean your tip on the meal covers the drinks as well?