Lisa Depaulo should be congratulated for her impartial tone throughout “Justice for Allen” [June 16]. But one important point was left unsaid: The revenge that Allen Myerson’s family is so intent on meting out to his widow, Carol, is also falling upon his infant twins.
-Amanda Foreman, Manhattan
Setting Us Straight
As the mother of the handsome, brilliant Allen Myerson, I was appalled by the many falsehoods in “Justice for Allen.” I won’t demean myself by listing all the horrible untruths. However, to claim that we were an abusive, dysfunctional family is disgusting—we were, and are, a loving, devoted family. Allen’s father was not a difficult man, and we had a long and wonderful marriage. Allen’s estranged wife is in good financial condition to care for herself and her children. She is not being deprived of anything.
-Natalie L. Myerson, New Rochelle, N.Y.
Without A Cause
I share in the enormous pain of Allen Myerson’s loss. He and Carol were friends of mine. As much as Allen’s sister Jean would like to blame someone for her and her family’s tragic loss, no wife “causes” her husband’s suicide. It is very clear that Allen’s life had been unraveling. Better to blame his genes than his wife. Carol does not deserve this additional punishment.
-Karen M. Kaplan, Ambler, PA.
A Tale Of Tolerance
Although we will never know what motivated Allen Myerson to end his life, I was amazed at the vengefulness of his family toward his wife. Like Carol Myerson, I am a non-Jew married to a “nice Jewish boy.” Like his family, my husband’s were observant Jews. But they were also loving parents who recognized that their son’s happiness depended upon their supporting his decision to marry someone outside his faith. Because they welcomed me into their family, my husband was never forced to choose between his family of birth and his family of choice.
-Suzanne Paul, Farmington, Mich.
When I first learned that New York was reporting an article about the death of my colleague Allen Myerson, I was afraid you would produce a voyeuristic wallow in other people’s misery, one that offered neither solace nor edification. I was right.
-Jim Schachter, Deputy Business Editor, The New York Times, Manhattan
While it’s impossible for any article to answer every question, I think further explanation is in order on one point raised in your story about the death of my husband. You mention that I made a withdrawal from our joint checking account in late August. In fact, Allen and I each took similar amounts to fund our individual accounts. Allen had made a withdrawal only the day before.
-Carol Cropper Myerson
Melinda Blau’s “Learning Curve” [June 9] was a disturbing confirmation of what our family is facing right now. My son has learning disabilities and is currently in elementary school, but we are well aware of the vast wasteland of middle-school prospects for him. If we deny these special kids the opportunity to receive a fair and appropriate education, then we are indeed leading them down the path toward drug abuse, violent crime, and suicide. We should be in the market to create taxpayers, not tax burdens.
-Lisa H. Setos, Los Angeles, Calif.
I am a parent of a young adult who attended both Churchill and Winston schools, two of those mentioned in your excellent “Learning Curve.” I would love to see another article on the paucity of colleges dedicated to the learning-disabled in the New York City vicinity. Like elementary and high schools, some colleges have services, but very few are comprehensive schools with full-service programs dedicated to the learning-disabled.
-Patricia A. Stevens, Manhattan
Both learning-disabled teens and their parents are stressed beyond endurance by the effort to find an appropriate academic placement. Not only are schools like Winston Prep and Churchill “harder to get into than Harvard,” but our public schools are falling well short of the grade in meeting the needs of these teens. Without the guiding hands of advocates like Susan Luger, whom Ms. Blau interviewed, parents would need more than the myriad pills shown on your front cover to survive the hurdles of finding, and then being able to afford, a successful school experience for their children.
-Pat and Faye Gillespie, Port Washington, N.Y.