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The Best Gifts for 11-Year-Olds, According to Experts

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Kids at age 11 are typically entering sixth grade, which is when a lot of middle schools begin. “Their social scene is changing and they’re starting to think more about their social identity and who they are as a more mature person,” says Lisa Goldstein, a librarian at the Brooklyn Public Library. Alyson Cohen, LCSW, a psychotherapist specializing in adolescents, young adults, and millennials in private practice in Manhattan agrees: “This is the age when it starts to get more challenging socially and physically. For a lot of 11-year-olds, puberty is beginning, so they’re facing physiological issues that are hormonal that can also affect their emotional states.” It’s also the age when your friends become super important. “This is that cut-off age where they’re not as excited to spend time at home with family and are really looking to blossom out into the world and gain some independence,” says Cohen. With these milestones in mind, Cohen and Goldstein helped us come up with a list of the best toys, books, and games for 11-year-olds.

We’ve also got gift guides for kids of all ages, including 1-year-olds, 2-year-olds, 3-year-olds, 4-year-olds, 5-year-olds, 6-year-olds, 7-year-olds, 8-year-olds, 9-year-olds, and 10-year-olds, as well as guides for teenage girls and boys. And if you’re looking for holiday toys, don’t miss the top kid’s toys to buy before they sell out — we talked to experts to find 2018’s hottest toys.

Stiga Space Saver Compact Table Tennis Table
$190 at Amazon

When we spoke with Cohen, she had just done a bunch of shopping for the kids in her life. “I want to be the cool adult that gets them things that fit who they are, and what they’re looking to do,” she says — which sounds like a great MO when choosing gifts for anybody. According to Cohen, the most important thing in a pre-teen and teenager’s life is their friends. “My idea for what I think is good for kids this age has to relate to the social. We hear so much about kids staying at home on their devices and not playing outside, so some kind of activity or game that they can do with friends, encouraging that face-to-face” time is crucial. She recommends a game that’s interactive, like ping-pong or foosball. Although this table tennis set is definitely on the pricey side for a kid, it’s not only timeless, but would be fun for the entire family.

Rally and Roar Mini Foosball Tabletop Game
$70 at Amazon

Cohen also recommends a foosball set. “It could be a reason to invite a friend over to the house,” she says.

Not Parent Approved: A Hilarious Card Game for Kids, Tweens, Families and Mischief Makers
$25 at Amazon

When choosing board games for 11-year-olds, Cohen advises getting ones that are trending, and not “old-school” ones like Monopoly and Life. This fill-in-the blank word game bills itself as “Cards Against Humanity, but for kids,” and is family-friendly.

Ticket to Ride
$45 at Amazon

Or try Ticket to Ride, another popular game that even made it onto our holiday board game roundup. It’s “a cross-country train adventure in which players collect and play matching train cards to claim railway routes connecting cities throughout North America.”

Monogram Journal
$18 at Anthropologie

For the more introspective types, Cohen recommends a journal, something that allows a child — or an adult at any age — to be expressive and creative. “I suggest to a lot of my clients, even those in their twenties, to pick up something that’s enjoyable, because when you do activities that you enjoy, you feel happier and are more likely to feel good about yourself,” she says. “I think it’s an important self-esteem building tool that can give you a sense of reward or satisfaction.” This is particularly important at the age in question, because kids “really start to identify as individuals and may feel different from other people. This is when the comparisons begin,” says Cohen. “Females in general tend to internalize more than males, so encouraging them to journal and to write their feelings down and get them out [is important.] Even if they don’t want to speak to their parents about what’s going on, just getting it out of their heads could be helpful.”

SmartLab Toys All-Natural Soaps Science Kit
$17 at Amazon

As far as “educational” toys go, Cohen suggests considering them on a case-by-case basis: “I don’t think you could ever go wrong with a slime-making kit or a soap kit. Making things they could use, baking, or anything food-related is great — something that gives the child a sense of accomplishment.” This soap kit includes materials to make 25 soaps, gift boxes, and a lab book that teaches the chemistry and biology behind making soap.

MindWare Science Academy Bath Bomb Lab
$21 at Amazon

Or try this bath-bomb-making kit that teaches kids the science behind chemical reactions in a fun, hands-on way.

Riwbox WT-7S Light- Up Bluetooth Headphones
$30 at Amazon

Cohen says you can never go wrong with electronics for pre-teens, especially with items like light-up headphones.

Trianium iPhone Battery Case
$50 at Amazon

Kids at this age also love anything to do with their smartphones, according to Cohen: “Cases that charge your phone are always things that kids need, because their phones are always dying from all the Snapchatting.”

Best books for 11-year-olds

The Girls’ Guide to Growing Up, by Anita Naik
$8 at Amazon

Cohen says that parents of kids at this age like to buy them non-fiction books that deal specifically with these coming-of-age years. “It might be an uncomfortable thing to receive in front of a lot of people, but privately, it might be something that a kid might want to read about just in case they haven’t learned [these things] fully in school, or didn’t ask all the questions.” For girls, she recommends The Girls’ Guide to Growing Up.

The Boys’ Guide to Growing Up, by Phil Wilkinson
$11 at Amazon

And here’s the counterpart for boys.

The Cardboard Kingdom, by Chad Sell
$10 at Amazon

Graphic novels are always a hit at this age, according to Goldstein. “The Cardboard Kingdom is by one artist with a bunch of stories written by different authors about a whole neighborhood of children who make costumes and adventures out of cardboard, making their block into a cardboard kingdom,” she says. “The kids are super diverse and they all live with a variety of different life situations. One boy wants to be a sorceress. Another boy wants to be the prince’s romantic interest. A child lives with his grandmother as his mother is absent; another child’s parents are splitting up. But it’s very cheerful with bold illustrations and it doesn’t feel heavy or like it’s trying too hard. It just reflects the true diversity of the world as well as children’s creativity and how every child deserves to be reflected in a book. It’s a really joyful book.”

The Hidden Witch, by Molly Knox Ostertag
$17 at Amazon

The sequel to last year’s The Witch Boy, The Hidden Witch picks up where the last book — in which a boy named Aster wants to be a witch, which only girls can become, while he, like other boys, can only be a shape-shifter — left off. In the new book, Aster is allowed to study to be a witch with the girls, and he’s enlisted to deal with some dark magic in his family. He then meets a girl at school who is a kindred spirit, someone who’s also been a victim of bullying and is living in a foster home. “All the characters are of color, there’s same-sex relationships, and there’s different gender definitions,” says Goldstein. “But again, it’s a natural diversity that is part of a fun adventure.” Done in a dramatic style inspired by manga, the book will speak to kids who already love Japanese comics.

The Serpent’s Secret (Kiranmala and the Kingdom Beyond #1), by Sayantani DasGupta
$13 at Amazon

Here’s a fantasy book that Goldstein also recommends, about a sixth-grader named Kiranmala living in Parsippany, New Jersey, whose parents are suddenly cast into another dimension. She discovers that she is a princess and embarks on a quest to rescue her parents and New Jersey, accompanied by two handsome Indian princes and their flying horses. “It’s a standard fantasy template, but all the characters are Indian or of Indian origin,” says Goldstein. “The characters are [inspired by] Bengali folklore, and everything is pretty funny. Kiran has a sort of snarky New Jersey voice, and it [has] a great mixture of innovative changes to a standard fantasy book.”

Dactyl Hill Squad, by Daniel José Older
$12 at Amazon

“Another clever and innovative book is Dactyl Hill Squad, the first book in a new series that blends historical fiction with sci-fi and fantasy,” says Goldstein. A group of orphans of color living in New York City during the Civil War fight to save their fellow orphans from being sold into slavery. “But in this version of New York City, dinosaurs never went extinct and they become allies in the kids’ battle against racism and oppression,” says Goldstein. “If you ask a kid if they like historical fiction, they’re most likely going to say no, but if you ask if they like adventure and good stories and dinosaurs, they will say yes.” Goldstein adds that the book also includes notes about the actual historical events of the time, so it’s grounded in reality — except for the dinosaur part.

Blended, by Sharon M. Draper
$14 at Amazon

“Another really popular author with tweens is Sharon Draper, who writes realistic fiction,” says Goldstein. In her latest book, 11-year-old Isabella feels caught between two worlds. With a black father and white mother, she’s used to the constant microaggressions of people asking, “Who are you? What are you?” But when her parents divorce, it gets even more confusing, because she has to spend one week with her dad, who’s wealthy, and one week with her mom, who works at a diner. “It’s nice for children in similar situations to see themselves in books, but it’s also a great lesson in empathy for any reader,” says Goldstein.

Not My Idea: A Book About Whiteness (Ordinary Terrible Things), by Anastasia Higginbotham
$13 at Amazon

Another book that deals with race is Not My Idea, a picture book for white kids that “talks to kids directly about race, particularly about the implications of being white in a racist society,” says Goldstein. The book not only helps them become aware of racism, it also empowers them to work toward justice and cultivates activism: “By being aware, you can help break down these systems.” The muted artwork deals with race in a sophisticated way, and the book is appropriate for younger kids as well as older ones, working well as a discussion book for families, according to Goldstein.

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The Best Gifts for 11-Year-Olds, According to Experts