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    ‘Men Always Disappoint Me!’You have to learn to use your voice.
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    ‘I Regret My College Social Life’Purge that concern from your mind once and for all.
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    ‘I Have an Excellent Lifestyle, But What If I Lose It?’You’re taking the worst part of panicking and ignoring the best part.
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    ‘Should I Invite My Mean Aunt to My Wedding?’When family members never address what they want or feel, things get ugly quickly.
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    ‘I Can’t Do Casual’You won’t become brave enough to ask for what you want until you know, for certain, that you deserve it.
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    ‘I Live With My Parents and I’m Miserable!’No one should have to feel this bad about their life at your age.
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    ‘I Am a Very Jealous Wife!’If you want to truly be healthy, you can’t turn your back on who you are.
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    ‘Will Grief Destroy My New Marriage?’You need to become brave enough to talk about this with the people who know you.
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    ‘I Am Rich and Worthless’You need to wake up and live a real life.
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    ‘Why Do I Always Have a Crush on Someone?’Sometimes it doesn’t pay to intellectualize our very basic need for connection.
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    ‘I’m Juggling School With Full-Time Work and I’m Miserable!’You feel guilty for sleeping eight hours or having sex? Dude.
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    ‘My Husband Read My Journal and Now He’s Upset!’Find a way to be honest with each other without letting it crush you.
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    ‘I Send Letters After Relationships End, But No One Writes Me Back’You’re throwing down brutal truths at the exact moment they’re no longer relevant.
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    ‘Time Moves Too Quickly!’Your thoughts are forming tight fences around your feelings.
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    ‘I’m a Pathetic Loser Who Can’t Stop Procrastinating!’You’re not what you think you are.
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    ‘Is My Absence From Social Media a Red Flag?’I think you’re ahead of the curve.
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    ‘I’ve Fallen Apart, and Nobody Shows.’Sometimes I think no one has it worse than the one who never gets angry.
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    ‘I’m 17 and No One Understands Me!’You’re trying to stay superior, to keep yourself safe.
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    ‘My Family Isn’t Speaking to Me and I’m Miserable Over It!’You know in your heart they’re being unfair, but that doesn’t mean you don’t miss them.
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    ‘Am I Too Weird and Contradictory to Find Love?’You, my friend, are not right with yourself.
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    ‘Every Man I Date Finds the Love of His Life Right After We Break Up!’Ask yourself why you’re so into these narratives about how you lose and lose and lose.
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    Ask Polly: ‘How Do I Decide What to Do With My Life?’I think that the answer, for you, begins with your shame.
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    ‘I’m Depressed and I Want to Leave My Perfectly Good Husband’You don’t want to talk about difficult things, like the fact that you’re falling apart.
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    ‘My Ex-Boyfriend Hates Me and It’s Messing Up My New Life!’You’re living inside his twisted perception of you.
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    ‘I’m Scared of Failure’You’re hidden, which doesn’t help.
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    ‘I Will Never Be Who I Want to Be’You’re playing a role that doesn’t suit you anymore.
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    ‘I Can’t Stop Comparing Myself to More Successful Writers!’You need to stop seeing the world through the lens of your fears.
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    ‘I Always Steal My Friends’ Boyfriends, and I Can’t Stop!’You’re telling an inaccurate story about how you keep falling into emotional quicksand.
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    I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless and I’ve Wasted My Whole LifeWhen you live inside of your shame, everything you see is inadequate and embarrassing.
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    ‘How Do I Survive Staying With My Judgmental Family?’Give them your poker face and don’t say a word.
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    ‘He’s “Confused.” Should I Wait for Him?’Confused is a placeholder that could keep you in a state of limbo indefinitely.
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    ‘I’m Lazy, Reckless, and Addicted to Social Media. Help!’The way you’re processing the world is broken. If you don’t fix it, you’ll just keep creating new problems.
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    ‘I Am So Bad at Making New Friends!’Resist the urge to treat friendlessness as a personal failure.
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    ‘My Boyfriend of Three Years Just Ghosted Me!’Your ex-boyfriend strikes me as the kind of person who is acutely aware of his own feelings, but has very little knowledge of other people’s feelings.
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    ‘I’m Slow at Everything and It’s Ruining My Life’I think you have to work with what you’ve been given.
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    ‘I’m Obsessed With a Woman Who Doesn’t Want Me’You seem to want to get swept away in a fantasy without ever having to show up.
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    ‘Everything I Do Is Wrong’A lot of people — women in particular — feel unbelievably accountable to others.
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    ‘My Broke Boyfriend Wants Us to Live Together!’No no no no.
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    ‘My Ex-Best Friend Is Talking Trash About Me to Other People!’It’s understandable to want to know what others think of you, but at some point you have to recognize that you’re gathering information you can’t use.
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    Ask Polly: ‘My Parents Don’t Love Me!’You don’t deserve to get hurt, over and over again.
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    ‘How Can I Make Art When So Many People Expect So Much Greatness From Me?’It’s crucial to recognize that the work IS the end, not a means to an end.
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    ‘How Can I Believe in Anything, After So Many Shitty Things Have Happened?’When the stakes are high, trying to navigate your current, disappointing reality is the most terrifying thing of all.
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    Ask Polly: ‘All of My Friends Are Terrible But I Love Them. What Can I Do?’Your old ways of doing things won’t work anymore.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Should I Quit My Day Job to Write a Book?’It’s harder to finish creative work when you view it as a means to an end.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Like Myself, But I Hate Being Single’I can tell that you believe in yourself. But do you believe in love?
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    ‘How Do I Start Over Now That I Know How Damaged I Am?’Start by grounding yourself in reality.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Should I Divorce My Extremely Frustrating Husband?’You both seem to like having someone to blame when things go wrong.
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    My Husband Dumped Me and Took My Business and I Don’t Know How to Move OnThe way you’re thinking about your pain and loss is making it harder for you to live.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Who Am I Without My Anger?’It takes a long time to learn how to feel your emotions without identifying criminals.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Feel Empty’You have no connection to your success because you don’t know why you do what you do.
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