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It's Complicated

  1. it's complicated
    My Husband Is a Better Person Than I AmHe remembers birthdays, he chats up the elderly, he bakes. What does he see in me?
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    We Had a Beautiful, If Imaginary, RelationshipThe best relationships happen in daydreams.
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    The Terrible Relationship That Inspired My NovelFor a long time, I was too embarrassed to admit it.
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    Getting Engaged Felt Like a Death PactThis would either end in death or litigation, with dying as the best case scenario.
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    Watching My Parents Bicker Taught Me How to LoveIf marriage is a bargain, a version of Let’s Make a Deal, my parents were grand-prize winners.
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    What It’s Like to Be 10 Years Older Than Your HusbandOver the years, our age gap has started to feel more like a gorge.
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    I Can Only Sleep When I’m AloneEven when I’m newly in love.
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    I’ve Been in 4 Relationships With the Same PersonBut we’ve never broken up.
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    How to Date in Your 70sI no longer need to prove myself lovable. I am and I know it.
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    My Secret to Marital Bliss Is Refusing to Share My MoneyIf we don’t share it, we can’t argue about it.
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    I Hate Getting Gifts Because I Hate Being MisunderstoodThey’re material reminders that I’m not always perceived the way I want to be.
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    How to Love Someone When You’re a HypochondriacTrying, and not always succeeding, to break out of patterns set in childhood.
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    It’s Complicated: 23andMe Informed Me My Husband and I Are RelatedWas our newfound connection romantic … or creepy?
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    It’s Complicated: How to Miss Someone Who Isn’t Really GoneIt feels like a loss, but it isn’t as clear-cut as that.
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    Watching the Netflix Version of the Life I Almost HadAt times, Private Life felt like a scripted version of my actual private life.
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    It’s Complicated: I Hate Relationships and I Love My BoyfriendI resisted monogamy because I thought I’d be bored. I am. It’s great.
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    It’s Complicated: Lunch With My First Love, 20 Years LaterI imagined this meeting so many times.
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    How to Lose Your Platonic Soul MateHow do you set boundaries for a relationship you can’t even define?
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    It’s Complicated: The Best Place to Flirt Is Instagram DMIt’s like I’m catfishing myself.
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    It’s Complicated: Love Couldn’t Save Me From LonelinessI was surprised by how many people thought it would.
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    It’s Complicated: I Had My First Date at 28On learning how to start from scratch.
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    It’s Complicated: Nothing Sounds Worse Than Dating When You’re GrievingI lost my ability to feel attraction. I lost my ability to feel anything.
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    It’s Complicated: Knowing I’m Bipolar Made Me Better at DatingTreating my mental illness helped me feel stable enough on my own.
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    It’s Complicated: How My Ex-Husband Accidentally Became My Good FriendWhat started as something I did for our kids turned into something I did for myself.
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    It’s Complicated: I Got Married Before I Was ReadyMaybe commitment could be a path toward the person I wanted to be, not a reward for becoming her.
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    It’s Complicated: Spare Me the Grand Romantic GestureSometimes the small and the ordinary carry more meaning.
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    It’s Complicated: The Embarrassing Private Languages of CouplesWhy can’t we stop saying awful things like “diggle dog”?
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    It’s Complicated: Adventures in Dating While ChristianI didn’t mean to make my faith an ultimatum. Not at first, anyway.
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    It’s Complicated: Dating Without Texting Is the Absolute BestIt’s exhausting. So why do it at all?
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    It’s Complicated: Growing Up in a Family Like Mine Made Me Terrified of ConflictI shut down even at necessary confrontation.
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    It’s Complicated: The Wedding Forum That Helped Me Leave My Abusive ExI couldn’t talk to people who knew me. So I tried people who didn’t.
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    It’s Complicated: Surviving the Embarrassments of Dating in a Foreign LanguageNot easy for a perfectionist who hates being wrong.
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    It’s Complicated: My Marriage Was Open, But I Couldn’t Get a DateSo I lied.
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    It’s Complicated: The Time I Scheduled a Heartbreak 3 Months in AdvanceI knew he was moving. We stayed together anyway.
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    I Live Like I’m a Plus-One to My Own LifeThe silent-meditation retreat that gave my marriage a makeover.
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    Giving Up Alcohol Made Me Date Like a Teenager AgainMy newfound sobriety came with a return to the awkward flirting, wholesome booze-free activities, and intense emotions of adolescence.
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    Maybe Don’t Sleep With Your Employee’s Brother at Her WeddingThe story of an awkward work relationship, a set of killer abs, and a lesson I learned the hard way.
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    A Fight About Tea Almost Destroyed My RelationshipDating across cultures can turn small instances of ignorance into something more.
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    It’s Complicated: Testing High Standards After A Lifetime of SettlingIt’s deceptively easy to overcorrect into being too picky.
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    How Soon After Widowhood Can You Feel Good Again?Relearning sex, and love, in the aftermath of my husband’s death.
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    Confessions of a Tinder TouristCall it the “sociological Tinder date” — even without any romantic spark, I love going out with matches just to learn about their lives.
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    The Unexpected Loneliness of Bringing My Fiancé Back to My HometownHe was emblematic of the new life I’d built since I left — and of how I no longer fit in the rural community where I’d grown up.
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    After a Breakup, I Bought Closure on eBayIt started when I found the listing for the tie I’d given him for Christmas.
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    When the Relationship Can’t Possibly Live Up to the Meet-CuteI met a guy in the most romantic way possible while on vacation, then worried that actually dating would ruin a great story.
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    That Time I Accidentally Emailed an Old Love-Letter Draft to My ExWhile going through my unsent messages with my new boyfriend.
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    Being Orbited by Exes Is My Favorite ThingWhen I catch one looking at my Instagram Story, it allows me to imagine, for a moment, that my life is as fun as the social-media show I’ve curated.
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    It’s Fine to Keep Your Sexual History a Secret From Your PartnerMy husband has no idea how many people I’ve slept with, and I plan to make sure it stays that way.
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    Learning About Love From My Parents’ InfidelityHow my dad’s affair shaped the way I grew up to think about what matters in relationships.
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    When Sexting Is Better Than Actual SexIt’s the superior form of the casual hookup.
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    The Best First Date Is a Boring Coffee DateOr something similarly unadventurous.
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