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The Word You're Looking For Is "Matriarchal"

By vaw66 on 7/10/2010

  • Overall Rating: 7
  • No, I would not go back!

When a woman is strong and domineering in a family system, she should be referred to as "matriarchal," not "patriarchal." Unless, of course, one is perpetuating heterosexist stereotypes about lesbian relationships where one partner is more "the man" and the other more "the woman" as Edelstein does in his review. Nic (Annette Bening) is more controlling and dominant than Julianne Moore's character. That doesn't make her a man. It makes her the stronger partner in a relationship who happens to have ovaries. P.S. I'm hetero, I like men, and I have a sense of humor. Another stereotype bashed.

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My life

By sophaloph on 8/5/2010

  • Overall Rating: 10
  • Yes, I would go back!

I am the daughter of two moms. My mothers are, in a nutshell, incredibly similar to Nic and Jules. My brother and I are incredibly similar to Laser and Joni. It's quite difficult to review a movie that feels like your reality, but I'll try. This movie succeeds in so many ways: from the family's dynamic, to the way the mothers process and discuss issues as if they've seen a therapist for years, to the heartwrenching dialogue of a dysfunctional family whose problems could easily be those of a traditional mother-father-two-kids household. I give this movie highest honors, because even though there are some blatant elaborations, it was honest and truthful and hilarious and painful. Maybe for me it's different because I couldn't be detached from it for one second, but I hope everyone felt the way it made me feel: connected as hell to the brilliantly written characters.

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