From Their Mouths to Your Ears
What cost a fortune?
Alex: Rentals. We rented from Party Rental, Ltd. They created a mock-up of the tabletop for us. I’m glad that I pushed them to do a mock-up, and that I wasn’t afraid to ask questions and to change things.
Chloe: I didn’t want synthetic napkins—they had to be linen. And it actually cost more to rent them than to buy them, so we ended up buying 100 fine-linen, hem-stitched napkins. At the end of the night we were doling them out.
Meg: Our wedding bills rolled in right before the wedding. My poor dad...
The Bridezilla Moment
“I looked at my hair and said, ‘I hate this; you have to redo it.’ She almost ripped my hair out.”
I’m sure you had a low point or two ...
Alex: I did have one freak-out—just one. I woke up in the middle of the night, and thought, Oh my god, I hate my dress! I went on a ten-minute rant on my dressmaker’s answering machine.
Ramona: I didn’t have a specific low point, but rather a low hum of neuroses throughout. The biggest thing for me was the magnitude of the event, what it really meant. Being confronted with like the, Who am I? How does this invitation reflect who I really am? So that weight was constant and heavy. I know I sent my venue’s manager one too many e-mails, like, “The lamb? Is it going to be medium rare or rare?” I was so out of control.
What were you most nervous about?
Ramona: Rain. A hurricane was supposed to hit New York the weekend of our wedding. I so badly wanted to have it outdoors; I was apoplectic. But I just kind of Zenned my way through it and it didn’t rain.
Nina: My biggest fear was two cultures meeting at the wedding. His side came from India, and I had people in from Japan. But it was fantastic! One night we had Indian food and music—Moghul was the caterer, and we had D.J. Magic Mike. They both did a fabulous job.
Daphne: I had a huge fear of someone doing something stupid: a guest getting drunk, doing drugs in the bathroom, getting really wasted, or getting into a fight. The University Club is very formal, and my father is a member there. I definitely had my planner keep an eye on a few people.
Did anything go awry?
Ramona: We didn’t have a rehearsal, so the ceremony didn’t go as perfectly as I had imagined. I sort of tripped down the aisle, and I couldn’t really get to my husband—there was a drainpipe in the way—and then he forgot that I was going to circle him. He was trying to gently move out of my way, and I was like, No, stay here, just stay. I dropped his ring; I had to duck down to pick it up. It was quirky and a little awkward.
Raeanne: Our videographer was late. He missed the ketubah signing. My photographer, Kelly Guenther, totally stepped up in his absence. It was funny: We had a mariachi band for the cocktail hour because my husband is Salvadorean and half the guests were Latino. Everyone told me to tell them that the party was starting earlier than it actually was. But they were early.
“We wrote our own vows. His were so much better than mine.”
What was the best part of wedding planning?
Ramona: Taking dance classes.
Alex: Us too! They were our refuge. It was an hour a week to not think about anything else but moving our feet.
Ramona: I went to NY Wedding Dance. We thought we were going to take one class but loved it so much we signed up for six. We choreographed our first dance: There were spins, turns, a dip.
Alex: Zack’s Dance Loft was mine. You have cocktails with him first, then you have your class. We did the cha-cha to “Save Room” by John Legend. We joked about him stepping on my train on the day of, and he did. It snapped off!
What was the most memorable moment from the wedding day?
Meg: We didn’t think that much about the ceremony. We’re both Catholic; we thought, Okay, let’s just get married in this church and move on. And yet the ceremony was my favorite moment.
Daphne: On our escort-card table we had six black-and-white wedding photos of our parents and grandparents. We had grandparents pass away the year before, so it was a way of having them there. I didn’t want it to look like a shrine, or anything creepy or weird. Everyone said how nice that was.
Sita: For me it was our last dance. I couldn’t tell you what song it was; it didn’t matter. There was slow dancing, there was some bending over backward, there were some fast movements— we did everything you could possibly imagine to it. In that moment I knew he was my husband. I had married the heck out of this guy.
Alex: We had to be out of Angel Orensanz by 11:30, so we all went out afterward. I walked through the Lower East Side and Little Italy in my dress, with my husband yelling, “Get out of the way! There’s a bride!” We all ended up eating pizza on Mulberry Street at two in the morning. The pizzeria’s owner came out to give us soap as a gift.
From the Summer 2009 New York Wedding Guide