Ask Kim France: I Don’t Do Dresses — What Do I Wear to a Wedding?

By,the Strategist’s new style columnist.She is also the author of Girls of a Certain Age Substack, a former Sassy staffer, and Lucky Magazine’s founding editor.
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Kim France has joined the Strategist with a monthly column to answer the highly specific style questions of “girls of a certain age.” She’ll cover going-out outfits for Gen-Xers who don’t like getting dressed up, what to wear when you spiritually feel 27 but physically you’re about to turn 40, and solutions for anyone generally confused about pants. Send your questions for Kim to strategist@nymag.com.

What to wear to a wedding if you don’t do dresses?

Reformation Angela Silk Two Piece
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Investigating how to address this request was actually a delight, because it turns out to be surprisingly easy to not wear adressto awedding; so many decent options abound. Your first way to go would be for a matching set, because they are pulled together while still being slouchy, like this sleeveless silk number from Reformation.

Reformation Ella Silk Set
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Reformation Ella Silk Set

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Also kind of amazing, and also from Reformation: this black-and-gold silk set.

Veronica Beard Callaway Smocked Wide-Leg Pant
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Veronica Beard Lloyd Paisley Button-Down Shirt
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From Veronica Beard: wide-leg cotton pants that would be amazing with the matching top; after you’ve worn these items to the wedding, you have two good, lightweight pieces to get you through summer.

L’ Agence Pilar Silk Wide-Leg Pant
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These very sharp black silk pants might be worn with a black silk top you already own (hereis a good, cheap, silky option if you don’t).

Eileen Fisher Silk Georgette Crepe Wide-Leg Pant
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I also quite like these very wide-leg pants, made of silk georgette.

ALC Kieran II Wide-Leg Jumpsuit
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Your next choice is to wear a jumpsuit, and sadly we are not in a jumpsuit moment right now, but I did manage to locate a few: This wide-leg number, cut to look menswearish, is quite appealing.

J.McLaughlin Bacall Silk Jumpsuit: RSVP x Steven Stolman
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This one, which is silk crêpe, is on the casual side, but the right shoes and jewelry would make it party-ready.

Black Halo Lena Color Block Jumpsuit
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A sharp strapless choice with a menswearish vibe.

Ramy Brook Dina Short Sleeve Button Down Jumpsuit
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Here’s another silk one from Ramy Brook that’s pretty cute.

Ulla Johnson Meera Silk Jumpsuit
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The print on this sleeveless Ulla Johnson option is really winning; I’d probably pair it with alightweight cardi, because I just don’t adore exposing the universe to my upper arms.

Indochino Johnby Twill Black Suit
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Your next option — and the one I most heartily recommend — is to wear a suit, because it’s such a totally smoke-show way to go. Maybe trythis snappy black twill onefrom Indochino.

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Another way to go — and one I’m dying to try — is to have a suit made for you, possibly bythe Tailory, an appointment-only shop in Soho that does quite good work. This choice isn’t the cheapest at all, but once you consider how often you’ll wear the suit, and how often you’ll wear its component pieces, you’ll realize that it’s a pretty good deal. I wouldn’t wear it to a wedding because that might be viewed as rude, but this suit is so spectacularly Bianca Jagger when she married Mick (and yes, I know she was actually wearing a skirt then).

I still want to look cool.

Frame Le Slim Palazzo - Rinse
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I love the brevity of this request, even as I am stymied by that very brevity. I do not know how old you are, how you usually dress, or even what you consider cool. I think that when somebody projects coolness, it’s really their confidence that you’re seeing. So I will share some things that make me feel cool and confident, starting with a pair of jeans that fit the way good jeans should fit, like these from Frame.

Mansur Gavriel Everyday Cabas
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Invest in a grown-up bag without entirely breaking the bank: This suede one from Mansur Gavriel is the very essence of slouchy chic.

Sézane Gary Maxi Bag
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And this one from Sézane has a very luxe vibe as well.

TWP Painter Shirt
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The right smart cotton button-down will take you far, and I like those made by the brand TWP, whose shirts are not un-pricey but are also just rather perfect. (FYI, one can usually find good TWP shirtson sale at Saks.)

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I also try to bejewel myself smartly and am always wearing a chain with several gold charms by James Colarusso. They’re just so elegant and gorgeous.

Isabel Marant Zap Belt
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Finding the right leather belt is no small endeavor, and I dig this one from Isabel Marant.

Xirena Stevie Belt
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This cotton woven belt from Xirena will add a pop of happy brightness to even the dullest ensemble.

Paul Smith Loves Barbour Women’s Bedale Jacket
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I always think that investing in the right outerwear is crucially important, because that’s what most people see you in out on the street. I love the anti-fashion look of a Barbour waxed jacket, and I’d snap up this Paul Smith for Barbour jacket in that amazing blue. It is sold out in some sizes, but there are other good shades to choose from, likethis olive green.

Barbour Icons Bedale Showerproof Jacket
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If that doesn’t seem quite right, there is always Barbour’s more classic Bedale jacket.

Ayr The Divine
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$1,200

Think about investing in an amazing suede jacket like this one from AYR, with which I am completely besotted.

Quince 100% Suede Blazer
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Or go for Quince’s suede blazer, which isn’t halfbad and rings in at a very fair price.

Soeur Windsor Short Double-Faced Wool Coat
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I also like this short double-faced wool jacket, which has such great, super-subtle details.

Ray-Ban Aviator Classic
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And finally, a super-easy way to project endless, timeless cool: a pair ofRay-Ban aviators.

Unstupid hats that protect your face from the sun but are not hiking hats, please.

Banana Republic Cotton Canvas Sun Hat
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I always go for buckethatsor some variation on that theme. The pop of red here is cute, and I love the matching drawstring.

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The brim of this bucket hat from Kule is slightly smaller, so maybe not the best choice if you’re out hiking all day, but for city wear, I think it’s just fine.

Velvet by Graham & Spencer Livvy Canvas Sun Hat
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Lele Sadoughi Reversible Terry Long Brim Bucket Hat
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Another really happy hat: this reversible striped terry one.

Emilio Pucci Multi-Colored Cotton Bucket Hat
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I have been known to stalk the RealReal for Pucci bucket hats, and if they are at all up your alley, I suggest you do the same, because Pucci doesn’t appear to be offering any at the moment.

Reformation Patagonia Bucket Hat
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I usually dislike branding on anything I wear, but there is something sort ofchic about it on this one, a collab between Patagonia and Reformation.

Aritzia Sunlight Raffia Hat
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$41

I don’t typically go for raffia hats either, but this one is packable, which is clutch.

Trina Turk Shade Packable Sun Hat
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Just a deeply cheery yellow one that also comes ina pretty great green.

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