Do You Need a Sex Pillow?

Liberator was the brand name I heard most often from experts, and for good reason — the company practically invented sex pillows as a product. The classic wedge shape can increase pleasure as well as help relieve pain or pressure from sex, Battle says. “If you find that your bodies don’t organically work well enough together, sometimes raising a hip or the pelvis is helpful, specifically for penetrative sex,” she says. Finn adds that propping your hips on a wedge can allow you to angle penetration more toward the G-spot or the prostate. Wedges can also make oral sex more comfortable, “specifically for cunnilingus, because not only does it allow the person who is on the pillow to open up their hips to allow more access, but it also lets the giver have a little bit more of a range of motion to move their head,” Finn says.

This slightly larger wedge may offer better support to larger people. “I’ve had clients who are in larger bodies that find that wedges are really helpful for them to get into sexual positions better with their partners,” Battle says.

Liberator also makes a ramp that is big enough for one person to lay most of their body on, rather than just tucking a wedge under their hips.

If you’re interested in both pieces, you can bundle the smaller wedge and larger ramp for a discount. Queen notes that you can also choose a plus-size version for the wedge-ramp combo if you need additional support.

Dirty Lola likes this pillow from Dame, which has a less dramatic incline than the classic wedges above as well as a slightly more subtle look that can easily blend into your bedroom: “It is a little bit more aesthetic, if you live in New York in a small apartment and you need to keep it out.”

Dirty Lola also likes this heart-shaped wedge because “it doesn’t scream sex wedge,” she says. “It comes in light colors and can just sit on your bed like a cute little addition. And then it’s easier for you to grab when you need it.” The heart shape is one of Finn’s favorites too: “The top of the heart is a really great shape for oral play or penetration because you can have the bottom’s legs over each hump of the top of the heart, and then the apex of the top of the heart is where their genitals can be, so that you have even more space while having the support underneath,” she says.

Queen recommends the dual-sided Jaz Motion pillow for its versatility: When placed on the flat side, it serves as an additional support pillow with a smaller footprint than a whole wedge or ramp. When placed on the curved side, it rocks along with your movements. There’s also a smallertravel size.

Another category of sex pillows are toy mounts. Finn recommends the Wing. “It holds a dildo or avibrator, and it’s reminiscent of the arm of a couch, which, historically, is something that a lot of people have said they explored with when they first started masturbating, especially folks with vulvas,” says Finn. “It provides you with something soft that you can grind and hump against,” she says. “And if you wanted to add a toy to have some solo penetration, you could do that as well.”

Finn also suggests the Wanda for those interested in toy-mount pillows. It can hold awand toy, which Finn notes can be cumbersome to use due to their larger size. “It’s shaped like a saddle, so you can either lay across it or sit on top of it and use that shape and that elevation to straddle without having to put all of the pressure and weight of your body on your knees,” Finn says. “That way you can really grind against the toy and not have to worry about using your hands. You can keep your hands free for other activities like nipple play or holding your phone so that you can sext your partner.”