13 Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Someone You Just Started Dating, According to Relationship Experts
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It’s hard enough to know what to gift your husband or wife or long-term partner for Valentine’s Day, but where do you even start when you’re looking for a Valentine’s Daygift for someone youjuststarted dating? “You need an acknowledgement that shows that you’re important to me,” advisesSusan Winter, a New York City relationship expert, “but you don’t want to be over the top, because you’re not really sure what’s going on.” Sarah May B., host of the relationship and advice podcastsLove Is Like a PlantandHelp Me Be Me, agrees that you need to strike a delicate balance with thisfirst Valentine’s Day gift, especially within the first six months of courtship. But she adds that as much as you might want to just ignore this romantic holiday, “You definitely can’t do nothing at all.”
The ideal Valentine’s Day gift for someone you just started seeing, then, is something that doesn’t put undue pressure on your new relationship or send the wrong message, like fancy jewelry or lingerie might. But you also don’t want this gift to come across as generic and dull. So to help you find a present that’ll impress your new beau without scaring them away, we asked four relationship experts for their advice and came up with 13 Valentine’s Day gift ideas for someone you just started dating.
Cute and Funny Gift Ideas
“The subliminal message underneath your choice of gift should say: I’ve paid attention. I’ve listened to what you like and don’t like, because your happiness is important to me, and this relationship is important to me,” says Winter. That’s why all of our relationship experts recommended getting a gift that references your relationship or an inside joke you share. “What makes their relationships so special is that there’s something that only they know, that only they think is fun, that only they find meaningful,” says Yue Xu, host of the podcastDate/ablewith producer Julie Krafchick.
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But Sarah May takes it one step further and recommends going fully ironic with your gift: “It’s a way to take the piss out of Valentine’s Day, because it’s got a lot of pressure built up behind it.” So instead of giving the gift of regular oldValentine’s Day candy, she jokes about giving a giant, one-pound gummy heart, “something that’s obviously silly.” We like this goofy, five-pound gummy bear (especially because it feels a little less precious than agiant teddy bear).
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The other reality is that your first Valentine’s Day gift doesn’t have to be that spendy, as long as it’s thoughtful and shows that you’ve been paying attention and have been thinking about them. This, of course, depends on what your paramour likes, but Sarah May still recommends going a bit more tongue-in-cheek than sincere, like these cheeky socks. (We also have a whole bunch ofValentine’s Day gifts under $25for every type of Valentine, if you want some other affordable options.)
Experiential Gift Ideas
All of our experts expressed the importance of planning something to do on Valentine’s Day itself (or that weekend, if your schedules are crazy during the week or you want to do something a little more ambitious), especially this early on in a relationship. “I think experiences are a really good way to see each other in a different light and create a memory,” says Krafchick ofDate/ablewho adds, “It’s about creating a bond, and in that first six months, you’re still getting to know each other. So by experiencing new things together, that unfolds different layers of who the other person is.”
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“Doing something with your mate will be remembered far more than an individual gift, especially in the month to six months,” adds Winter. Plus, spending this special time together doing something a little bit different can also serve as a test for your burgeoning relationship, to see if this is someone who you really like and can work with as a team. One classic option is a cooking class, which you can take the weekend before Valentine’s Day itself. That way, Winter says, “You can have a meal and make a meal and then replicate it on Valentine’s Day at home for each other.”
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If you’re want to making sure they have something they can physically take with them, it could also be nice to do something where you learn how to make something, like a pottery class. “This way, you have something that’s a physical memento of what you made together,” says Xu. If you’re in New York City, La Mano Pottery in Chelsea offers a slew of intro workshops, either on a pottery wheel or by hand.
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If you are planning on going out to dinner on Valentine’s Day, it could be nice to have something to enjoy together after the meal, back at someone’s apartment or home. That could be dessert from their favorite bakery that you went out to get yourself, or a bottle of nice wine or their favorite alcohol. It might also be nice to have a little activity to keep you occupied, like this stylish puzzle inspired by the design museum Cooper Hewitt’s current exhibit on color.
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“If you know that this is your person, and you’re really trying to build this relationship strong, I think a gift related to upcoming plans goes really far,” advises Sarah May. “So, for example, let’s say you’ve talked about going snowboarding together. A cute beanie would be a gift like,Oh, if we ever went snowboarding together, this beanie would look great on you.” Though a nice cashmere beanie, like this one from Cuyana, would be a thoughtful gift for the long winter ahead, even if there aren’t any plans to hit the slopes.
Classic Gift Ideas
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However, if you’re still coming up blank, Winter’s advice is simple: “When in doubt, go traditional. Get a card, flowers, and chocolates.” In fact, going for the classics was recommended by all of our relationship experts. Krafchick adds, “If it is that early stage, getting something generic like flowers or candy could be a good way to go, because it’s acknowledging it, but it’s not going fully over the top, either. ThisValentine’s Day arrangementfrom the Bouqs Company has a lot of roses, but it’s broken up by some handsome eucalyptus leaves for a less intensely “romantic.”
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“But within the traditional, you can be creative,” notes Winter, “Perhaps you don’t need to have the red roses. You could have a beautiful orchid plant.” That way, you’re giving them a gift that’ll last long after Valentine’s Day is over.
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Or you could really give them flowers that will really last forever, like thesesilk peonies.
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You could also combine some of these recommendations and go to a flower arranging workshop, like this one at Manhattan’s Flower Girl. That way, you’re making something with your new beau and spending quality time, while also checking a bouquet of flowers off the list.
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Some kind of Valentine’s Day candy or box of chocolates were another fail-safe gift, recommended by all of our experts. “That’s not creative,” admits Winter, “but it expresses the sentiment of making a romantic statement.”
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However, if you want to get a little more interesting, we’ve written about theseGerman chocolateson the Strategist before. They’re shaped like cat’s tongues and come in a vintage-inspired box that’s also covered in pictures of cats.
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If they’ve got a sweet tooth and a sense of humor, we’re tickled by this chocolate bar from Mexico City-based Casa Bosques (that we actually deemed thenext status chocolate bar). It’s single-origin dark chocolate with toasted buckwheat, made in collaboration with the interior design magazineApartamento, and yes, it does feature a toilet on the front, which is ideal for those who really want to take the piss out of Valentine’s Day.
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