Sex toys are the kind of thing you don’t think you need until you have them, and once you do, you don’t know how you ever lived without one (or two or three). And if you’re in the market, we’re here to guide you toward the best of the best — including not-so-obvious vibrators, more-obvious dildos, and lots of surprisingly tasteful erotic accessories. Whether you want to give the gift of self-pleasure or heat things up with your partner, there’s a little something for everyone on this list of Strategist-approved sex toys.
Though initially thrown by the cone-shaped design of this vibrator that doesn’t look like a vibrator at all, Strategist testers loved the Vibe from Maude for its surprising efficiency and ease of use with a partner. It’s a no-frills, high-powered device that’s fairly unisex in color and form, but the Vibe still comes in pretty packaging (and is subtle enough that you could leave it on your nightstand).
Best gentle vibrator
Another high-design vibrator, this one from Dame was a favorite among more sensitive Strategist testers. They’re described as soft — “like expensive silk” — with a relatively low-powered motor, and the loop-y design means this vibrator is easy to tether to your hand during solo or couple play.
Best G-spot vibrator
One of our testers described the Gigi 2 from Lelo as “the yacht rock of vibrators,” meaning it’s got many fans. With a flat tip and a curved shaft, this vibrator is designed to maximize contact with the G-spot, but it could easily be used for external stimulation, as well. Another tester noted, “It’s very friendly — I could also imagine using it on a dude who likes butt stuff.”
Best vibrator to use with a partner
Several experts we’ve spoken with praise the We-Vibe as the ultimate couples sex toy. It’s multifunctional, since it bends to fit the wearer’s shape, and straightforward to use (even though it also pairs with an accompanying app so that you or your partner can easily adjust the settings without fiddling around with tiny buttons). Plus, according to Emmy Williams, manager of Narcisse NYC, “the fit of the toy and the vibration patterns can be customized for your preferences to a near limitless degree.”
Best non-vibrating toy for any body
The weight and curve of this versatile dildo from Njoy make it ideal for G-spot stimulation, while the flared base allows easy access for anal stimulation. It can also be heated up or cooled down, thanks to the stainless-steel construction. However, if you’re looking for something made of silicone or glass, not metal, we found a bunch of other non-vibrating sex toys that you can enjoy.
Of all the non-vibrating sex toys that were recommended to us, this Bandit model is worth the price if you’re looking for a very realistic dildo. According to professional dominatrix Valerie August, “Vixen dildos are the best on the market, hands down.” Experts love the luscious, dual-density silicone, which means it’s soft and squeezable with a hard, heavy core, and very anatomically correct.
Best anal plug
This b-Vibe anal plug comes highly recommended by several sex shop owners and buyers for people interested in anal play. “These are pretty cool because they’re weighted on the inside with one or two steel balls,” says Andy Duran, educational outreach coordinator at sex-toy retailer Good Vibrations, and those steel balls are “a great way to see if you’re into anal stimulation.”
Best prostate massager
If you’re looking for a sex toy for men, consider something that’ll stimulate the “P-spot.” Accessed in prostate play, it offers “a different kind of orgasm than regular ejaculation. It’s a deeper, more filling orgasm,” according to Samantha Bard, co-owner of the Williamsburg sex shop and event space Shag. Her pick for a prostate massager for beginners is this one from Blush, because it’s not too big or intimidating, but it’s still made of high-grade silicone.
Best masturbation sleeve
The Fleshlight is the original male masturbation tool, and “it’s got a loyal following,” Searah Deysach, owner of Early to Bed in Chicago, told us in our roundup of the best non-vibrating sex toys. She adds, “for people who have penises and who want the sensation of being completely enveloped in something squishy and ribbed, you kind of can’t beat it.”
Best toy for trans men
In our search for the best toys for men, we spoke with experts who suggested this stroker, created in collaboration with adult-film star, producer, and trans advocate Buck Angel that was specifically tailored for trans men to enjoy. The strategic design gives an effect more similar to stroking or jerking off as opposed to a more clitoral-focused toy.
Best cock ring
Vibrating rings are like two toys in one, benefiting both the wearer and the partner. The experts we surveyed to find the best toys for men recommend this option that’s great for beginners because it’s affordable and enjoyable whether it’s used solo or during intercourse.
Best silicone lube
If you’re planning on getting frisky, lube is a good thing to have on hand, too. When we asked experts about the best lubes, Überlube was a favorite silicone-based option. It only has two ingredients and comes in a stylish glass bottle that looks more like body lotion than traditional lube. Überlube is also a favorite among Strategist readers, appearing on our biweekly roundups of best-selling products over 15 times.
Best water-based lube
While silicone-based lubes are great for endurance, water-based lubes are better if you’re using silicone toys. This vegan Jelly from Unbound comes highly recommended by sex and relationship expert Shelby Sells, who uses it with toys and with partners when they’re using condoms.
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