The first thing to know about sex toys for men is that, yes, they exist. “A lot of people are surprised that there can be products for men,” says Andy Duran, educational outreach coordinator at sex-toy retailer Good Vibrations. People often think vibrators, for instance, are “very gendered and designed for women, but the reality is that our bodies are all pretty similar. We all have nerve endings that respond to vibration, or touch, or stimulation.” Although sexuality is highly personal, we set out to find a variety of sex toys for a variety of preferences with the guidance of experts who would know best. To find the best sex toys for men, we talked to 16 different people, including sex-shop owners and employees, sex educators, sex therapists, sex coaches, and sex podcasters.
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What we’re looking for
Material: You want to make sure you’re investing in toys that are made of high-quality, body-safe materials. Body-safe materials — which include things like silicone, glass, metals like stainless steel, and ABS plastic — are nonporous, so they are less likely to harbor harmful bacteria or viruses and are therefore more hygienic. A few strokers on this list are made from Thermoplastic Elastomer, a soft plastic that is often porous. As such, they should not be shared between partners and should be disposed of by the manufacturer’s set number of uses.
Vibrating versus non-vibrating: While some people love vibration, others may find it to be too intense (especially on more sensitive areas) so we’ve included a good mix of both below within each type of toy.
Best overall sex toy
Ring | Silicone | Vibrating
If you’re thinking you want to try out a toy but don’t know exactly where to start, most of the experts we spoke with said a “ring” toy would be a great choice. Zachary Zane, a sex writer for Men’s Health, says that, in his opinion, the vibrations add a lot to the overall experience, especially when you’re with a partner. As he puts it, “No matter how good you are at sex with your partner, you can’t vibrate.” Duran also likes vibrating rings because they’re like two toys in one. While the wearer gets the benefits of blood-flow restriction, your partner will feel that vibration on their body during intercourse, adding that even if you end up not liking a vibrating ring, you still can use the toy as a vibrator or ring separately.
Three experts we spoke to say this cock ring from Je Joue is the best in its class for both comfort and power. Lisa Finn, a brand manager and sex educator at Babeland, says the Mio is a favorite in the category because of the powerful motor, streamlined design, and the rumbly, deep vibrations it creates. Sid Azmi, a sexual therapist and the owner of Please in Brooklyn, agrees, noting that the type of vibration is critical when it comes to higher-tech rings like this one. While some products have a loud rumble, others have a tight rumble that produce more of a buzzing sensation. For a cock ring, Azmi says that a tight rumble is crucial, since loud vibrations can cause pain in a lot of males due to its location near the ball sack, which tends to be more sensitive. Finn adds that this ring is also made of a durable silicone and is still quite stretchy so it can fit on a variety of sizes. Another point echoed by Azmi: “Some cock rings are so tiny and tight, it’s like wrapping a thin piece of rubber around your finger. The Mio is superior to the competition from that perspective.” Billy Procida, the host of The Manwhore Podcast, adds that while it isn’t cheap, the Mio is a quality ring that will last for years. In fact, he says that buying cheaper sex toys will cost you more in the long run, because you’ll “be back where you started in three months. Respect your genitals.”
Best less-expensive ring
Ring | Silicone | Vibrating
For a simpler, more affordable vibrating ring, Duran recommends this option from Screaming O. Simply stretch it around the base of your erect penis and switch it on. While it’s only designed for onetime use, he says it’s an effective, discreet, and travel-friendly option for first-timers.
Best app-compatible ring
Ring | Silicone | Vibrating
Samantha Bard, co-owner of the Williamsburg sex shop and event space Shag, particularly likes the We-Vibe Pivot, which she calls “the Cadillac of cock rings.” You can control the vibration on the actual toy if you want, but the best part of the Pivot, according to her, is the included smartphone app. This allows your partners to control it from anywhere in the world and create custom vibration patterns. The ability to control the Pivot from across the dinner table is part of what makes it “really popular,” she says. Plus, because it just looks like you’re on your phone, it’s even more discreet.
Best non-vibrating ring
Ring | Silicone | Non-vibrating
Sometimes you just want something simple. For those times, Finn says you can’t go wrong with this minimalist silicone ring. She suggests using it during masturbation, for partner play, or to prolong playtime before orgasm. You can also use it as a “bumper” to prevent too-deep thrusting during intercourse that can cause discomfort for your partner, she adds.
Best adjustable ring
Ring | Polymer | Non-vibrating
Dr. Steven Snyder, a New York City–based sex therapist and author, says the “really hot thing” among his patients is this stretchy ring, which he describes as less of a toy and more of a practical solution when you or your partner’s size is causing pain. The toy is actually a collection of “very soft, flexible” rings that you can add or remove depending on your size. “They give a different sensation for penetration and are excellent if a man is going in too deeply.” A note on material: While the original Ohnut was designed in silicone, that made it incompatible with silicone lubrication, so they switched to a polymer. While the brand asserts that Ohnut’s polymer is body-safe because it is not permeable with the typical amount of pressure applied during intercourse, they do recommend that Ohnut is not shared between different partners.
Best overall stroker
Stroker | Thermoplastic Elastomer and PC plastic | Non vibrating
Strokers, which are generally designed for masturbation, were another popular recommendation for those buying starter sex toys. Three of our experts say that if you’re looking for one, the Tenga Flip Zero is worth the investment. Steve V. Rodriguez, the creator and host of the Talk About Gay Sex podcast, calls it his favorite toy. He adds that the toy’s inside has “all these grooves and bubbles and cutouts that are going to make you feel really good and let you explore different sensations your genitalia has never felt before.” It has another fan in Duran, who says that unlike other strokers, which typically have rigid plastic exteriors, this has a flexible one that responds to touch. “It gives people the opportunity to adjust and feel their own hand strength, or their partner’s hand strength, instead of just relying on the product,” he explains. Zane likes the Flip Zero, too, for the same reasons as Rodriguez. Because it has many different grooves and ridges, he says, it provides lots of different sensations. Zane adds that Tenga sells a few different models of the Flip — the Zero is the simplest — and if you want to experiment, you might consider one of its pricer vibrating models that he describes as “completely insane.” Due to the thermoplastic elastomer, the Tenga Flip Zero should be replaced after 50 uses.
Best less-expensive stroker
Stroker |Thermoplastic Elastomer | Non vibrating
Three experts also told us that Tenga’s low-priced, simple, and straightforward Egg is a great stroker for those on a budget or looking to dip their toes into such toys. “Incredibly discreet, super-cute, a really good gift, and it’s less than $10,” sums up Bard. Each Egg is ribbed inside, and although they’re designed to be single use, she says that if you regularly wash an Egg with soap and water, you can extend its lifespan. While it’s known as a masturbation toy, Bard assures that it doesn’t have to be only used solo and that an Egg can also be a lot of fun to use with a partner. Procida agrees that the Egg is “always great to have in a drawer,” and Duran is a fan, too, who often suggests throwing one in your bag for away trips because it’s disposable. “It’s just a little treat.” (If you want to stock up or get a few to give as gifts, the Eggs also come in a variety pack of six inside a cute, tiny carton).