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The Only Gift Guide for a 4-Year-Old You’ll Ever Need

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While it might be hard to remember the exact age of your best friend’s kid, the difference between a child who just turned 3 and one who just turned 4 can be enormous. According to Jeannette Corey, director of the Bank Street Family Center, 4-year-olds continue to engage in pretend play, but that play becomes more sophisticated and is more dependent on their expanding language skills. They are also more physically mature and able to use more advanced techniques when drawing, painting, or sculpting a hunk of Play-Doh. As a result, their art becomes more representational, Corey says.

In practical terms, this means that talking to a 4-year-old feels way more like talking to a little person with strong preferences, interests, and an actual personality. They might experiment with telling jokes (or trying to) and be interested in adopting words and phrases they hear from adults. They are endlessly curious, oftentimes goofy, and creative enough to invent their own games and play scenarios.

To help you find gifts that encourage that curiosity and creativity for the 4-year-old in your life, we asked child-development specialists like Corey, as well as toy experts and discerning parents, to recommend their favorites. We’ve organized the 31 toys they mentioned by price range, so if you have a budget in mind, you can use the table of contents to jump right to that section — or read all the way through to get a full picture of the best gifts for 4-year-olds.

Meanwhile, if you’re also shopping for kids in other age groups, we have gift guides for 1-year-olds, 2-year-olds, 3-year-olds, 5-year-olds, 6-year-olds, 7-year-olds, 8-year-olds, 9-year-olds, 10-year-olds, 11-year-olds, and 12-year-olds plus the meticulously curated Strategist Toy Store, filled with all our greatest hits.

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“Open the box, and you’ve got the basics of an auto-body shop,” says Jason Feifer, editor-in-chief of Entrepreneur magazine, podcast host, and dad of two. “There’s a big plastic drill that spins at non-dangerous speeds as well as the disassembled parts of a car — chassis, roof, wheels, bumpers, and a bunch of screws. At first, a very practical parent might just assemble the car and think … That’s it? But to kids, it becomes an endless experiment: They’ll spend hours mastering their screwing technique, changing the wheels around (or screwing them into the roof or front bumper), and generally just re-pimping this ride over and over and over.”

“My 4-year-old, who is a huge fan of Richard Scarry books, loves playing this game,” reports Strategist writer Lauren Ro, whose son Augie received the gift for his fourth birthday. It’s basically the world of Busytown in board-game form — interactive, silly, and super fun, she says. Players work as a team to race to the island on a ferry before the picnicking pigs eat all the food. Depending on what you spin, you either advance or go on a scavenger hunt to collect different objects on the six-foot-long game board. “It’s actually pretty challenging, even for adults,” Ro says, since there’s so much ground to cover and the illustrations are quite detailed (just like in the books). “But Augie relishes the challenge and gets really excited each time he plays,” she adds.

Corey recommends stocking a play space with age-appropriate art materials that support process over product, and scissors are a superlative tool for honing fine motor skills and improving hand strength. Plus, wacky scissors like these are fun to use too. The edges on this easy-to-grip, child-safe set cut through anything from construction paper to cardboard to photo film — and come in six different shapes for wavier and more interesting borders.

This clay-dinosaur craft kit makes kids feel like one part artist, one part paleontologist as they mold their own dinosaurs in a swirl of primary colors; using little tools and the same bright clay to cover up faux fossils. In other words, it’s one of those celebrated STEAM-learning toys (science, technology, engineering, arts, and mathematics), whose excellence was even recognized with an Oppenheim Gold Award, which, according to Holly Magelof — toy buyer from the Dolphin Bookshop of Port Washington, New York, and a 20-plus year veteran of the toy-buying industry — is a big deal in her world; “that’s something people get excited about,” she says.

At this age, many kids are starting to experiment with personal style and fashion. And lots of 4-year-olds love accessorizing their bold style choices with temporary tattoos. You can find tons of great options on Amazon, but Kelly Harris Smith, founder of the Boston-based Minni art space, recommends Tattly temporary tattoos because the company supports working artists, and the unique designs are more exciting. The brand has a huge selection of tattoos so you can tailor the theme to your child’s interests, whether that’s outer space, unicorns, or pizza slices.

Before they actually start to learn to read, children work on pre-reading skills like letter forms, storytelling, and spacing, among other things. According to Lori Caplan-Colon, a speech and language pathologist at Montclair Speech Therapy, this set of wooden letters with corresponding pictures and word guides simplifies the process by letting kids focus on the simple act of building a word. “The directed, goal-oriented play helps children celebrate each “win” as they gain mastery, learning important sight words and improving fine motor skills all the while,” says Caplan-Colon

“Let’s be clear about something: This is Russian roulette for kids,” says Feifer. “The plastic alligator sits poised, mouth agape. Players take turns pushing down one of the alligator’s teeth, until they find the randomized one that triggers the alligator — and then, snap go the jaws! The gator’s bite is surprisingly forceful, but kids don’t seem to mind. It only heightens the playful tension. Then you pull the gator’s mouth back open, the teeth reset, and it’s time to play again.”

Singer Sarah Gregory’s children — twin boys and a girl — love this bead-jewelry kit from B. Toys that comes with 500 unique pieces that easily snap together. Not only are they fun for kids of any gender, but also, Gregory says, they’re “great for fine-motor skills.” She adds that one of her sons was obsessed with these beads for a long time — and not just as elements for jewelry-making. “He used them to build things, like snakes,” she explains. Her daughter, meanwhile, played with the kit more traditionally to design baubles with her friends.


Milk Teeth co-founder Catherine Newell-Hanson recommends gifting one of these personalized superhero capes that she says have been a hit with the kids in her life. You’ll need a bit of lead time, but the result will definitely make the recipient feel very special. “The Etsy seller who makes them can also include a matching mask,” she notes.

“I love this little gift” for vocabulary and language development, says Dr. Alexandra Figueras-Daniel, an assistant research professor at the National Institute for Early Education Research. The set of 36 illustrated storytelling cards can be arranged and rearranged into different stories and scenarios, allowing kids to create a new narrative every time they play with it. “It’s inexpensive,” Figueras-Daniel adds, “and great to carry in a bag for waiting at a restaurant or taking on a trip.”

For the animal lover, speech-language pathologist Ellice Kim Lacerda, who has a 4-year-old daughter, recommends adding a figurine from Schleich, the German toy company that’s been around since 1935, to every gift. “In general, we love the Schleich figurines. We always add a few different animals to every holiday and birthday wish list,” she says. “They are pricier than other figurines, but they look realistic and are very durable.” Whether your kid prefers dinosaurs or wild animals, there’s something for everyone.

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Now that they’re older, 4-year-olds can graduate from Duplos and move on to playing with LEGOs, which Dr. George Sachs, a child psychologist and founder of the Sachs Center in Manhattan, says “allow children to develop their own creative ideas and foster spatial awareness.” They’re incredibly engaging and will keep kids busy for longer than you’d think possible. And even though most sets include specific pieces like car wheels and windowpanes, LEGOs are still totally open-ended toys. Joanna Faber, co-author of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen, recommends them for that reason, saying, “Kids love LEGOs because you can endlessly make wild and crazy things with them.”

This innovative farm-animal board game “challenges kids to really think about each move,” says NAPPA Awards director Elena Epstein. It works by creating a layout for a series of cows, pigs, and other animals that must be kept separated using the limited number of fences included with the game; a child must figure out the perfect placement for each challenge, putting to use logic, spatial reasoning, planning, and visualization. “Kids feel a lot of pride as they figure out each level,” Epstein says.


A large part of every child’s education is social-emotional — learning how to interact with other children and process feelings. For that reason, Caplan-Colon suggests giving this age group a toy that encourages empathy and pretend play, like this pretend veterinarian kit that teaches them to treat and heal a plush kitten and puppy.

This entirely kid-friendly microscope has a dual eyepiece, so there’s no need to close one eye to use it. “I love the Geosafari Microscope for my curious preschooler,” says Andrea Scalzo Yi — founder of and author of  100 Easy STEAM Activities. “It allows him to explore the world around him in a unique way and encourages learning through play, which is so important.”

“Cash registers are an excellent toy option,” says Helen Sadovsky, a pediatric occupational therapist who runs, a blog focused on helping parents find developmentally appropriate and educational toys for their kids. “They teach counting and money-management skills in a simulated real-world environment.” The register can also be a great part of imaginative play as your child sets up his or her very own store or restaurant.

“As parents, we have to be mindful of the subliminal messages we send,” says Caitlin Meister, founder of the Greer Meister Group, a private tutoring and educational consulting practice in Brooklyn. If children see only dolls that aren’t anatomically correct, she says, they could be getting a message that there’s something about those body parts that should be ignored or kept hidden or secret. Instead, she thinks it’s important to have a balance of dolls, including some — like this one from Miniland — that accurately represent children’s bodies to help counter any unintentional negative messaging. Miniland’s inclusive line of dolls represents different races as well as babies with Down syndrome.

Art supplies are endlessly appealing to kids at this age, who are beginning to master the fine motor skills needed for more complex drawing, painting, and sculpting. And to satisfy a 4-year-old’s penchant for variety, Tze Chun, founder of UPRISE ART, recommends this beginner craft library that she says contains enough of a mix to keep little kids busy but is curated enough to motivate them to use their supplies carefully. She also likes that it works as a “perfect self-contained activity” and can be easily brought on a trip.

For our roundup of the best art supplies for kids, Erin Boyle of Reading My Tea Leaves told us about her favorite chunky colored pencils. “You can use them like a crayon, add water to use them like a watercolor, and they even work on whiteboards,” she says, adding that they are a very good way to satisfy kids (or parents) who want the color intensity of markers but don’t want to deal with lost caps.

Sachs stresses that “this is the age when kids are doing a lot of pretend play.” Even though we’re talking Tribeca prices for the sandwiches here, “this picnic play set is wonderful,” Sachs says, full of pretending potential using different props.

“What will a kid do with a bucketful of colored blocks?” asks Feifer. “Basically anything, of course. But these dominoes are especially appealing. They’re sturdy, brightly colored, and plentiful (because you will lose some to mysterious corners of the house). Lining them up for the big knockdown is a great parent-child activity, and 4-year-olds have just enough focus and motor control to create some basic trails themselves. The hardest part of it all: teaching your kid the willpower to not send the tiles toppling while you’re only a handful deep.”

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“Four-year-olds are really beginning to use fine motor skills in a way they couldn’t before,” says Sachs. He likes these Squigz, which are flexible assorted shapes that stick together by way of suction cups. “It uses their growing fine motor skills without being too frustrating for them.” And you can imagine how a little one’s eyes would light up when you hand over this gumball-machine-like orb filled with 50 colorful pieces.

Jocelyn Greene, founder of Child’s Play NY, emphasizes the importance of imaginative play for 4-year-old kids, because kids start to get the most cognitive and social benefits from dress-up play around age 3 and beyond. She says pretending to be someone else — whether it’s a chef, makeup artist, firefighter, or surgeon — is not only fun, it’s critical to a child’s development, as they explore how to navigate the world in someone else’s shoes. This set with an apron, hat, and props is one of 15 pretend play collections from PlanToys, a brand that makes heirloom-quality toys from sustainable materials like wood, fabric, and recycled plastic.


“Narrative or story-based play is a critical component of Playmobil’s design,” says the Toy Guy, Christopher Byrne, an author, toy historian, and an independent analyst. Indeed, with the bounty of playthings in this horse-and-stable kit — saddles, grooming brushes, feeding troughs, a wheelbarrow, a pitchfork — there’s no shortage of scenarios kids can dream up. “The cognitive and creative value of putting the imagination at the center of the experience is invaluable for both child development — and fun,” says Byrne.

Kids who like playing in a sandbox will have even more fun doing so with this swiveling excavator crane, according to Lacerda. She told us the toy keeps her daughter “very occupied for long stretches of time” and “it is always a hit when friends come over.” Simply set it up in the sandbox — or at the playground or the beach — plop your kiddo on the rotating seat, and watch them dig and dump to their heart’s content.

Another toy that taps into the fun of make-believe is this plush campfire set from Crate & Barrel’s kids’ line. “Although my kids got it for Christmas years ago, they still play with it to this day,” says marketing manager and mom of three Irene Kwon, who notes it makes for a particularly good cold-weather activity. “During wintertime, when we’re mostly indoors, my kids rely on their creativity to get them through those long hours at home. This toy really sets the stage for a cozy, relaxing, warm winter’s night — sans fireplace.” To make it even more like the real deal, Kwon suggests giving your child a cup of hot cocoa “to enjoy with their faux marshmallows.” (And real ones — if they’re lucky.)

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This beautiful and gender-neutral wooden dollhouse comes with a solar panel, a wind turbine, and mini-recycling bins — features that many parents will appreciate. It also fosters hours of open-ended imaginative play and is built to last for generations. We included a much more minimal first dollhouse from the same brand in our story about the best dollhouses.

Though they are admittedly expensive compared to other bikes for kids, Woom bikes have developed a loyal following of happy parents and happier mini-cyclists. Stroll through Prospect Park on any given sunny day, and you’re guaranteed to spot at least a handful of kids racing around on their Wooms. “It’s a beautiful, well-made bike that feels robust, with every component thoughtfully designed and considered,” says Ro. “A lot of made-for-kid stuff feels ticky-tacky, but this bike is hefty, like an adult bike but shrunk down.” Her son Augie loves going superfast, and “the ride is so smooth,” says Ro, who notes that braking is easy, too, thanks to the ergonomic and designed-for-small-hands levers. The company offers six different models for ages 18 months to 10 years; Augie has the Woom 2, a 14-inch bike designed for kids 3 and up; depending on your child’s height, you might consider sizing up to the Woom 3 so they can ride it longer.

If you’re willing to embrace mess, Lacerda loves how this mud kitchen from TP Toys “encourages creative play.” Her daughter enjoys grabbing “sticks and leaves from the garden” and adding them to the removable sink, where she also likes to “wash and clean her toys.” The kitchen comes with a burner, oven, shelving, and a set of stainless-steel pots, pans, and whisk, making it easy to whip up mud pies — or whatever else is on the menu.

James Zahn, a senior editor at the the Toy Insider, introduced us to this very cool ride-on recycling truck from KidTrax. It has 100 sound effects, responds when you insert one of the included toy cans or boxes into a shape-sorting slot, and lets kids drive around to pick up the trash and dump out their recycling haul with the pull of a lever.

Additional reporting by Lauren Ro and Steven John

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The Only Gift Guide for a 4-Year-Old You’ll Ever Need