While we might all be curious about the best plunger or probiotic tampon or cold-sore remedy, it can be difficult to discuss these more personal items. That’s why we’re tackling Things We Don’t Talk About, a series in which we track down the best hygiene-, sex-, and bodily function–related things we all need but might be too embarrassed to ask about. Today, recommendations from those who would know about the best vibrators.
The search for the right vibrator can be a daunting (and expensive) process. It’s also highly individual. There are those that are finger-like, still others that simulate tongues, even more that approximate male genitalia, plus wand-like versions that are meant only for external stimulation. Just in time to spark ideas for a great Valentine’s Day gift from your partner (or just a gift to yourself), we talked to sex experts, shop owners, and professional reviewers about the 11 best vibrators. (And if you’re searching for the best lube to go with it, look no further.)
Best pebble-shaped vibrator
“A good sex toy will last you for years, so you want to be sure it fits your body and is giving you pleasure every time. Personally, since intense vibration from a wand-like toy (Hitachi or Le Wand) and suction toys are too intense and feel painful to me, my go-to is the Je Joue Mimi.” —Andrea Barrica, CEO and founder of O.school
Best flat-tip vibrator
“The Gigi by Lelo has a curved shaft with a head that has a flat ridge to it. So it’s great for hitting the G-spot. I really like the shape of this one for someone who is a bit weary of penetration. The shaft isn’t super thick or girthy. It’s rechargeable, fully waterproof, coated in 100 percent silicone, it’s super quiet, and it also comes with a ten-year warranty from Lelo. The only thing this toy cannot do is go in the butt because it doesn’t have a flared base.” —Lisa Finn, brand manager, Babeland
It’s available at Babeland, too.
Best tongue-like vibrator
“The Clandestine Mimic just won best new product at XBIZ awards. It’s this very beautiful and ergonomic toy that fits in the palm of your hand and conforms to your fingers — it looks just like a stingray. Then you just cup it over your pelvic bone or anywhere you want it to vibrate. I love that it conforms to your body and accommodates your own pleasure zones.” —Ava Mir-Ausziehen, performer, writer and sex-toy reviewer for Sssh.com
Best thrusting vibrator
“The Fun Factory Bi Stronic Fusion is on the pricier side but it’s an absolutely great investment for anyone who enjoys more intense internal stimulation or dual internal/external pleasure. The unique motor (precision German engineering!) in the shaft can be set to mimic a natural thrusting motion while vibrating, in addition to offering more standard vibration settings. The clitoral section of the vibrator can be controlled separately, allowing you to either focus just on G-spot stimulation to to enjoy blended clitoral and G-spot stimulation, too.” —Lorraine White, sex expert
Best quiet vibrator
“These Toyfriend vibrators are really good for the price. They’re under $50 but they’re powerful little things, and they’re not buzzy (sometimes buzzy vibrators can get a little numbing as opposed to stimulating). A lot of battery operated toys will only last around 30 minutes but these’ll last like two hours at the highest vibe. Plus they’re whisper quiet and like everything on my site they’re body safe.” — Amy Boyajian, owner and founder Wildflower Sex
Best finger-like vibrator
“I am also a huge fan of the Dame Fin. It’s pretty small, but it has a really powerful rumbly vibrator in it. What’s unique about it is it’s shaped to fit between your fingers and it also has a little removable tether that tethers it to your fingers. Because a lot of times when people are using toys together, if a partner is trying to use this toy while penetrating someone, dropping and fumbling that toy happens a lot. But with this there’s no dropping it and it almost becomes an extension of your fingers.” —Boyajian
Best wand vibrator
“It’s certainly not the most compact, nor is it really ideal for using with partners, but I love my Hitachi Magic Wand. Like, actual multiple orgasms. It’s the Maybelline Great Lash of vibrators — the same no-frills shit your mom used (maybe still uses?) that gets the job done. Literally keep mine plugged into the wall and stashed in my night stand at all times. And get the speed controller. Extremely worth it.” —Beca Grimm, writer
Best high-intensity wand vibrator
“I’ve always been more of a fan of wand vibrators, which are intended for clitoral stimulation and don’t involve penetration. The Hitachi Magic Wand is a classic example of this, but there are also a lot of other good ones that have come out lately. I love the O-Wand. It’s cordless and rechargeable, and it’s absolutely giant (you could hit someone over the head with it and probably knock them out). But it’s worth it because the size of its motor means it has those really rumbly vibes and really intense clitoral stimulation. If you’re into that, in the sex-toy world you are referred to as a ‘power queen.’” —Hayley MacMillan, wellness editor allure.com
Best vibrating ring for him
“Screaming O makes a line called Primo that’s a great starter ring. It’s comfortable, stretchy, and unassuming. If the guy wears it up top and he’s having sex with a women, then she can get clitoral stimulation from it and also it makes his shaft vibrate. Ideally you’re wearing this around the shaft and balls so it restricts blood flow for the guy and gives him a very powerful orgasm. And with this toy if he doesn’t feel like wearing it, she can just use it to get clitoral stimulation on her own.” —Samantha Bard, co-owner Shag Brooklyn
Best Bluetooth-enabled vibrating ring for him
“The WeVibe Pivot is waterproof, rechargeable, and it connects to WeVibe’s smartphone app so you can control it from anywhere in the world. You can also customize the vibration patterns through the app. It’s low-frequency rumble vibe, it is one of our best sellers, and it’s just a really nice toy. When people are ready to upgrade to something that’s a little more sophisticated and interesting this is usually what they go for.” —Bard
Best medium-intensity vibrator
“A vibrator does not have to be cute and speak a contemporary language to be awesome, but this one is waterproof silicone, has a mild vibration that makes it perfect for those who find those big vibes are just too much, and ten different settings. (Gone are the days when vibrators have an on-off switch, or maybe low AND high settings.) And if you like the chili pepper or banana emoji better, there are vibes that look like those, too.” —Carol Queen, Ph.D., Good Vibrations staff sexologist
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